Monday, April 29, 2013

What I Learned On My Day Off

Every so often, life sneakily builds up on me until I'm at a breaking point. Over the last month or two, I've spent most of my lunch hours rushing to appointments, crossing tasks off my to-do list (stressing all the while about getting back to work late), or leaving early so I could go out of town or meet a service person at my house... then scrambling around attending events and stuff in the evenings and on weekends. I realize that this is normal life to many people, but personally, I can only power through for so long. I felt stressed constantly and couldn't deal with it anymore. Even after taking some time to relax last weekend, I hadn't come out of my mental fog.

So last Friday, I took a vacation day just to catch up on my life. I accomplished most of my nagging to-dos in that one day!* It's crazy how much easier it is to get things done in the daytime. Even though I slept in, by noon, I had already visited the car tag office** and gotten my tires rotated at Wal-Mart (and easily did the shopping while I waited). In just a few hours, I knocked out a list of errands that would have taken forever individually on a night or weekend. It was incredibly liberating. Then, with nothing hanging over my head, I was able to HAVE A WEEKEND. I had time for a leisurely brunch with a friend, reading, napping, catching up on my DVR, and even renting a movie (which has become the height of luxury to me for some reason).

I've concluded that my life would be vastly improved if I could have one Errand Day per month. One day (or even half-day) solely devoted to Doing All The Things, during which no one is allowed to call and redirect my plans or ask me for anything. Sometimes I feel ridiculous struggling to manage everything as a single woman. I sense mothers rolling their eyes at me thinking, How hard can it be? (and seriously, working mothers, I don't know how you do it). But as my friend and I agreed this weekend, single women are solely responsible for managing our own households. Even if it's only a household of one (and pets), we're doing it all on our own with no help and little time.*** As I've said before, single homeownership is not for the fainthearted. In addition to home responsibilities, most single women juggle busy social schedules to meet our needs for interaction… not to mention the time-suck of "putting ourselves out there" at every opportunity in the faint hope of meeting someone (because, as people love to remind us, God will not deliver the right man to our door). This is especially draining for me as an introvert, which is probably why I have these occasional breakdowns. I want to live a full and interesting life. I also want to know when I'm still single and too old to have children that I did everything I could. But often, all I really want is to stay happily at home with my cats and a good book and have it be okay.

Anyway, taking that day was one of the best things I've done for myself in a while. I can't really afford to do that as often as I'd like to, but in the future, I'll be less hesitant to take the time when stuff starts piling up. It's worth it.

* = The main thing I didn't do: call Comcast to cancel/negotiate my cable. I can't pay their exorbitant costs anymore, but I don't understand the competitors' cable/internet options and false advertising and hidden installation fees, and I also dread calling and arguing with them. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP.

** = Heads up: if you buy a car outside Shelby County and keep your old tag, it will NOT be transferred automatically. Even if the dealership said they would handle it, and you received completed transfer paperwork from the Tennessee Department of Whatever.

*** = This is still fathoms better than managing a household of two with no help and little time. (Been there, done that.) But that doesn't mean it's easy.


  1. I can relate on so many levels. Isn't it amazing how quickly the "to do" list can get out of control? It's like it never ends.

    We JUST left Comcast...because their fees have become ridiculous! We went to DirecTV and we LOVE it. We've already received our first bill and there were no hidden fees. Our cable bill has been reduced by $70ish/month. (We do still have Comcast internet and they raised our rates. Regardless, we're still saving ~ $50/month with the switch. You may have other internet choices, but we live in a small town and are stuck.) If you are interested and want more details, I'm happy to share. And I have a coupon I can give you for $100 off (which I'm pretty sure they give you as -$10/month for 10 months.

    1. The only other option I have for internet is Uverse, and that wasn't even available in my area until recently! They offer a bundle with DirecTV that's MUCH cheaper than Comcast, but I went through a fake setup to get a quote and it tacked on a surprise $300 installation fee at the end. That didn't seem right to me (my brother has the same package in Indiana and didn't have any extra fees). So I gave up and walked away from it for the time being. It's so frustrating.

  2. I wonder if that 's uverse related? We paid a $20 deposit for DirecTv. Then, we paid $50 for a pole for the receiver thing. You can have that attached to the house for free, but my husband was absolutely set against that $50 is optional & probably not needed in most cases. We had to sign a 2 year contract...which you can break but it will cost you to break it...however, even if that comes to's still cheaper than Comcast. Basically our fees were the $20 deposit & 2 year contract. Everything else was optional. Again, we've already seen & paid our1st hidden was exactly what they said it would be. I don't know anything about uverse...I just know I have to have a hard wire line for Internet for work (lots of people suggested I get the wifi thing from our cell carrier) and my only option for my Internet requirements is Comcast. I'm so over Comcast! Maybe you should just call DirecTv?

    1. Maybe it is Uverse related. I ought to just call them. Thanks for the info! :)